One Big Table

8:30 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)


I have a recipe in this book! Talk about a FANTABULOUS birthday present!

I have yet to own a copy of the hefty 880-page read written by former New York Times food columnist Molly O'Neill, but as I've just found out tonight, my Milk Chocolate and Marshmallow Cornflake Cookie recipe made it on page 756! Here's a snippet from the Simon & Schuster website, describing the book and its author:

"Meticulously selected from more than 20,000 contributions, the cookbook's 600 recipes are a definitive portrait of what we eat and why. In this lavish volume—illustrated throughout with historic photographs, folk art, vintage advertisements, and family snapshots—O'Neill celebrates heirloom recipes like the Doughty family's old-fashioned black duck and dumplings that originated on a long-vanished island off Virginia's Eastern Shore, the Pueblo tamales that Norma Naranjo makes in her horno in New Mexico, as well as modern riffs such as a Boston teenager's recipe for asparagus soup scented with nigella seeds and truffle oil."

You'll find the full article here. And, my friend, Bianca Garcia—whose Pork and Chicken Adobo recipe is on page 502—blogged about One Big Table at Confessionsofachocoholic.com.

Will post my feature and recipe once I have a copy of the book!

Image courtesy of Simon & Schuster.

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More French Goodness

7:30 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

Over the summer I had picked up a copy of Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire by Mireille Guiliano, author of the best-selling French Women Don't Get Fat books (a cookbook version is now available).

Reading the first few chapters, I'd typed up some quotes on my desktop and I'd like to share them with you. I would also recommend getting the book since it packs in more notable insights from the author not included in this blog post. Cathie Black's Basic Black actually comes to mind, in terms of the kind of book one could go back to from time to time for sensible musings coming from experts and leading women in the field. Black is Hearst Magazine's former president and current chairman; and Guiliano is the former CEO of Cliquot Inc, under the prestigious LVMH umbrella. Guiliano has managed to make that mustard yellow champagne label so ubiquitous and the marker of fancy celebrations that it is now. And, in her business tome, Guiliano takes on a tongue-in-chic approach to women and the workplace, along with lifestyle advice you won't find in business books written by men. That,

p9 - 10
"So much for planning, in business or in life. Lesson learned. Things happen. Opportunities are often unpredictable."

p 23
"Yes, but with talent, hard work, and being in the right place you can help make your own luck. By my late twenties I had something of a vision of myself in some sort of management position that permitted me to eat at all the top restaurants on someone else's dollar."

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"Concluding such stages in life presents opportunities and invitations to relaunch or reinvigorate a career or professional life. They are also times when you can make your own luck or at least put yourself in a position to be receptive to "lucky breaks." So again, think opportunity. Whether these are sad or happy times emotionally, remember not to think failure. (Where does that get you, anyway?)"

p30
"...I believe that life is lived in episodes and stages, and it is clear that some passions can fade while new ones emerge over time. Indeed, our first loves and passions can be overrated and it would be unwise to pursue them. Others are pursued earnestly for a time, then discarded. C'est la vie."

p53
"Life's too short to worry about the past. And after a while, believe me, you can't even remember the details of the past that were once so consuming. Move on. We all have made mistakes or think we have; living is about the moment and the future. Look ahead."

Image courtesy of http://prettysavvy.ca.

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5 Before Hopefully Not 35

7:07 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (3)

I want to write about this wedding, do a blog redesign...and more!

As much as I'm thrilled by all the recent developments in my career, I tend to beat myself up over personal goals, deadlines, and projects that I am aching, aching to tick off my checklist. Inspired by the blog, 25 Before 25, published by also a writer and editor I'd recently befriended, here are my 5 before I'm hoping way before I turn 35 (I'm only 30, folks!).

1. Redesign NyMinuteNow.com, featuring a more streamlined template with plenty of white space to keep things sleek, pristine, and easy on the eyes. (If you have absolutely bug-free suggestions, let me know! Again, no bugs; I need something plug-and-play with HTML I can still modify. Sorry, no CSS for me AND DO NOT even mention Wordpress; the latter is NOT an option. Case closed. I've written about that issue here.)

2. Migrate this current version to its backup Blogspot address, for people who like this design, also for myself, when I get melancholic...or in case I change my mind about the new one.

3. Repost my Yummy.ph articles and recipes because the site did a redesign and the bloggers' pages are gone(!). Anyway I desperately need to take care of my AllMySugar blog too! (Oh, why do I do this to myself?)

4. Finish rewriting and editing my chick-lit novel. Sigh...

5. Do a Wedding Series here, because I have at least five wedding-related posts brewing that I haven't gotten around uploading. Plus, I'd recently started contributing to Summit Media's relatively new venture BridalBook.ph. I've accepted that I've happily jumped into the big-day bandwagon. Now that I'm married, it's a different kind of excitement and delight when I hear of other people's engagements, or, in the case of a recent wedding I'd attended, being a guest.

I'm sure there's more than the above, but for now I'm keeping it to five so as not to get ahead of myself!

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About the 30-Day Blog Challenge

10:41 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (10)

I have to admit, I thought I'd breeze through this year's 30-Day Blog Challenge (Big Apple Edition). True, the days whizzed by, however, I found it a bit more challenging this time around writing a blog post everyday on top of having a new full-time job (no more working in pajamas) while doing other writing and editing occupations (that still let me work in my pajamas). I know I've unwittingly managed to keep my work plate full because 1) It quells the paranoia of being—gasp!—jobless, and 2) It helps me deal with the long distance away from my husband. Having a lot of work to do makes me not fixate too much on missing him. And, I do miss him a lot nevertheless, especially whenever my back and feet hurt and when I just can't seem to sleep right. Put him next to me and off I go sleeping like a baby.

So, what now?

While I really, really find the daily blogging schedule ideal, I do want to live a more enriched life offline. I've recently just started doing yoga again, so I would very much like to have some time to let my body recuperate from all the twisting and turning. In Mireille Guiliano’s book, Women, Work & The Art of Savoir Faire, she ponders the “inevitable shift in social grace to the acceptance of present-tense community sharing.” She talks about a young American couple she and her husband sat next to in a small Parisian bistro: "They were whispering to one another and clearly delighted with the food and experience. Just after they finished their meals, on some silent command they both whipped out their smartphones and for a good five minutes sat in the middle of the restaurant with screens twelve inches from their eyes, reading, texting, and emailing away with intense concentration and frozen faces from faraway places." She further writes, "It points to an inability to live in and savor the moment unless it is externally recorded… abstracting and distancing it.”

That said, I still do want to keep blogging on a regular basis somehow, some way. It's true that writing is a muscle—and it's the same thing with chefs, athletes, pole dancers… To paraphrase Chelsea Handler from an episode of her show I'd seen a while back, "If you pole-dance often enough, you get better and better at it.” Same goes with writing.

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Dealing with Fear

8:58 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

DAY 21
of the 30-Day Blog Challenge

I've always been afraid of heights. But, for a few years in my late teens, I'd managed to shake off this fear when I got into rockclimbing. Maybe that's another way to deal with something you're scared of: Just keep doing it.
(That's me in the photo, taken in Palawan on a press junket for Shiseido in 2005. Photo from this blog post.)

I wrote a different blog post for tonight but I decided not to publish it, because it's not exactly pleasant. It's about a nagging fear that I'd rather not talk about right now. Anyway, I've read in Basic Black a while back—written by former Hearst Magazines president, now chairman, Cathie Black—that to deal with fear, you have to do one thing that propels you forward and tackles the feeling. I may have also read in the book or an article somewhere, that it's actually good to imagine the worst-case scenario; walk yourself through it, imagine the steps you would take. So in the event that what you fear the most indeed does happen, you've already 'rehearsed' and are emotionally (and consequently, physically) prepared to deal with the situation.

I've actually spent the last few days roughly going through that method in my mind. But sometimes, no matter how hard you "practice," things can still hurt and be bothersome. It's like dating a guy whom you know is about to dump you and you see it coming and yet, when it happens, you still keel over in pain, crying your eyes out (on another note, I'm relieved to be married; I don't want to ever have to feel that kind of pain again).

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A Lesson in Etiquette (Part 2)

10:06 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)

In the same vain as I'm never going to eat nachos drizzled with melted cheese and jalapeños with a fork, etiquette has plenty to do with common sense. And for whatever is written here, I suggest taking it all with a grain of salt.

To quote from Papa:

"The best way, forever, is to grab the chicken and chomp. I learned that there are so many useless information is this part of the galaxy and I coped better when I fixed on the big things. Max Fried Chicken just provides water to wash your hands after eating. I listen to successful people—free guide to fortune... Now, to Farmville!"


American vs. Continental Dining

Prior to reading The Little Book of Etiquette by Dorothea Johnson I had no idea that there were two ways to handle one's fork and knife. I'm tempted to just scan the illustrations, but I don't want to deal with copyright issues (and I'm lazy). I'll try to break them down as simply as I could.

The American way is to hold the fork in a downward slope, gently slicing food with the knife ("Don't saw back and forth at your meat with a knife. Stroke the knife toward you."). After cutting, place it down the edge of your plate, sharp side facing in. Switch the fork on your left to your right and hold it like a pencil. Convey food to your mouth as you would a mini-shovel.

The Continental way, on the other hand, has the diner holding both knife and fork throughout the meal. "After the food is cut, your knife to secure it on your fork. Bring the fork, tines down to your mouth by twisting your wrist and raising your forearm slightly."

If that sounds confusing, I'm sure a quick Google will yield some helpful images. As for me, I've managed to combine the two ways without realizing it. Now knowing this, does it mean I'll have to choose?


The 'Fish' Way

I'd been holding my knife like a pencil all these years, after learning this was the proper manner of doing so. It turns out, this is the way one is supposed to hold the knife when eating (and maneuvering) fish. Good thing I've eaten mostly seafood in the past decade.

For poultry and other meats, "the knife is not held like a fish knife because more leverage is needed for cutting." So do as you would when slicing vegetables on a cutting board, except stick your pointer finger forward to steady the knife. "Cut only one piece at a time."


Going Back for Seconds

This I needed to know: The photo above is how one should leave silverware on the plate when taking a breather or leaving the table with the intention of coming back to pick up where one left off. "A highly trained server will not remove your plate with the fork and knife crossed. This is a universally known silent signal indicating the diner has not finished and is only resting."


Bread and Butter

  • "Do not pull the roll in half." (I am sooo guilty of this!)
  • "Break off only one bite of your bread or roll at a time, then butter it with your butter spreader and eat." (This, I do, after I've pulled the roll in half, ha!)
  • "Do the buttering on your plate, not in your hand." (Oops.)

Johnson advises that should the person on your left commandeer you bread plate, don't call him or her on the faux pas and instead, use your dinner plate for bread. "Resist the urge to take the bread plate on your right and confuse others."


Other Random Tips

(...and Tipping)

"Before you sit down, approach each person at the table whom you have not met beforehand. Extend your hand and introduce yourself, greeting guests you already know by name."

"White wine glasses are held by the stem and red wine glasses by the bottom of the bowl when one is at a seated dinner. Leave the wine swirling, gargling and stem maneuvers to the oenophiles."

"Tips are supposed to be a reward for services performed, as well as a supplement to an employee's income. The average gratuity is 15 or 20 percent (before taxes). A larger gratuity should be left for extraordinary food or service."

A Lesson in Etiquette (Part 1)

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A Lesson in Etiquette (Part 1)

7:12 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (8)

When it comes to table manners and proper social conduct, I don't consider myself completely ignorant. After all, plenty past luncheons, dinners, and events had required some form of proper decorum from my end, and as a child of the 80s and 90s, I knew early on from watching Pretty Woman that one used utensils from the outside in.

When my uncle—a self-made man—got together with my aunt who was from an old-rich family, my cousins and I (we all lived under one roof) benefited from a lesson or two on refinement. Tita Joan (pronounced 'Jone'), became our second mother, teaching us about manners and the good life by way of Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music. She taught us by example—never ever in a condescending way—and through countless invitations to dine at her parents' home wherein household help served meals from our right and cleared the plates from our left. (Or was it the other way around? Now you see why I needed the book above?)

Personally, apart from Tita Joan's open-minded and introspective outlook in life, I can mostly recall her culinary influences: chicken baked in paprika, how to properly sear meat ("Don't flip it about."), good mustard and marmalade, and so forth. She also taught me to eat Boursin and Havarti cheese; and for many years, I couldn't tell them apart. And because of her, when I had my own apartment and didn't really have a lot of money, I still went to Mandarin Hotel for the walnut multigrain bread.

That said, I always still get curious about other fine things in life, including the study of etiquette. So when I picked up the mini-book, The Little Book of Etiquette by Dorothea Johnson, I may have as well called myself ignorant all these years.

Here are some pointers that called out to me, including so many things I didn't know. Please feel free to add your own tips via the comment boxes, we all could use a new reminder or two. And as I write this, I realize the book covers a lot of ground with enough material to be discussed, so I'll do a mini-series as I blog along.

1. "Do try a little of everything served to you unless you know you are allergic to it."

I first caught wind of this dining 'Do' when I noticed almost a decade ago how my friend, Simon (my mentor Marie's boyfriend) never declined on snacks or food I offered him. This habit of his slowly clued me in that he was doing this out of good manners. After all, he always struck me as someone who had impeccable decorum—always tactful and refined.

2. "Blot your mouth before taking a sip of water."

Now I think I've been doing the opposite way, patting the napkin over my mouth after drinking from the glass. From now on, to be safe, I am going to blot twice: before and after.

3. "Do take medicine discreetly, preferably away from the table. If you must take medication at the table, do not mention it to anyone."

This is a good reminder for my Tempra and Claritin moments.

4. "Do remove alien objects from your mouth with your fingers and place them at the edge of your plate."

Good to know because I'd always assumed one had to use her fork or spoon to do this.

5. "Don't place personal items such as purses, briefcases, and glasses on the table. A small purse belongs on the lap and large purses near your feet."

And I'm adding phones to this list. I'm also guilty of placing my mobile next to my plate, so again, this is a good reminder not to. Also, those nifty jeweled bag hooks from CMG come to mind; must get one of those.

More table etiquette tips tomorrow, plus, what my dad had to say about all of this!

A Lesson in Etiquette (Part 2)

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Reading List

8:32 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (8)


In true Pinay form, I've spent the weekend outlet-shopping for mostly clothes I hope to wear often enough to justify the expense, and random odds and ends I simply couldn't resist.

Unusual to see at the outlet stores was a bookstore that sold a variety of reads, including these tiny ones that only cost three for $5. At the bottom of the pile is a crochet book at $2.99. Everything including tax (only now I'm learning to account for tax in list prices) came out to less than nine dollars or so. Sweet, right?

Here are the complete titles:

1) The Little Book of Etiquette by Dorothea Johnson [Running Press]
As I type this, I have a blog post brewing on the contents of this mini-book. It's proving to be quite the useful resource for proper dining decorum.

2) The 8th Habit by Stephen R. Covey [Running Press]
If you were an employee by the turn of the millennium, chances are your office mandated seminars on The Seven Habits of Highly-Effective People. So far I only remember the part about Emotional Bank Accounts (that can be overdrawn by certain people), plus the hefty leather planner and reading materials. I enjoyed using the former with the special custom paper.

3) Desperate Housecats by Meredith Parmelee & Christine N. Robert [Running Press]
This is for my dad's household. He and his wife, Leena (check out her Cat Addict blog at Catlovertalaga.com) have at least seven fuzzy felines in their home, along with dogs, fish, and as of a few months ago, lovebirds. Right now, I think my dad is addicted to Farmville on Facebook :)

4) Stitch Collection: Textured Crochet by Helen Jordan [St. Martin's Press]
If you go to the previous post, "Finding Your Passion," the crocheted pieces featured were actually made by me. A couple of weeks ago I came across this multi-colored yarn (I forgot the name for it) and ended up crocheting a few coasters/floral patches. I remembered a few things from grade school, plus some guessing along the way, with lots of yarn unraveling. I'm hoping this book can show me some new things to do for those lazy, offline afternoons. I wouldn't be surprised if I get into knitting down the line.

Cute mini-books.

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Seven Easy Ways to Stay Slim

3:02 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

No pressure: Find an easy, breezy food and fitness combo that works for you.

Ever since that year I’d uncannily gained 15 extra pounds (it took a year to shed them), I thought I’d completely resolved my body issues and have learned to be happy with what I weighed. Because when I did get fat, only then did I realize I was thin before after all.

Except that from time to time, I still get bothered by superficial concerns like how my belly spills over my jeans, or how my already chubby cheeks have become more pronounced in the last few years.

I understand with women, it’s a constant struggle to accept and appreciate—or even love—what we were born with, all the physiological facets and contours that make each form unique.

I’ve picked up some strategies throughout the years to help combat the body blahs, whether it’s that puson [paunch] that makes you look pregnant, or those stubborn five pounds that seem more noticeable during that time of the month. I’ve learned to turn to them whenever I need a nudge or just overall accept the present and, as much as I would like to look (and weigh) like my 22-year-old self, my priority these days should be to be healthy and enjoy life and its multitude of culinary delights. And if you’re lazy like me, scanning—and following—these tips should be a piece of cake.

1. Start Small

I was a former athlete and I now live a sedentary life. And the thought of exercising just makes me want to be even more sedentary. I bet this is a common dilemma. My solution is to start really small: as in something so miniscule and seemingly irrelevant that it doesn’t put pressure on you to charge full steam ahead in terms of going to the gym and getting on the fitness bandwagon.

The other day I decided to get on a treadmill for exactly five minutes. That's right: five minutes of leisurely walking, no more, no less. I was literally still in my sleepwear and just slipped on my rubber shoes.

It doesn't even have to be a treadmill: you could grab a jump rope, do one push-up here, a crunch there. As the days go by and at your own pace, add little increments to your routine of choice. Before you know it, five minutes on the treadmill becomes seven, and then 10; one crunch and push-up becomes a set of 12. And surprise! You're actually…working out!

But if you’re still not ready to get off the couch just yet, skip to the next step…

2. Make Like The French

I had a Parisian colleague who stayed thin throughout the time I’d worked with her. And no, she didn’t obsess about what she ate or how often she exercised. In fact, she signed up for the company gym but only ended up going once a month. She would eat a croissant for breakfast at her desk daily, and almost everyday, she and I went to the same lunch buffet line in the cafeteria. One time, she even invited me to her apartment to dinner where she made pasta with cream and salad, which we enjoyed with glasses of wine and hunks of bread.

I know genetics plays a big part in how our body morphs (or dismorphs), but what I noticed with the French (at least from this one person I’d befriended) is that they eat in moderation and enjoy exquisite things and aren’t likely to binge on them. They have cheese with every meal, but not slabs of it. They have dessert with lunch, but not the whole cake. Realizing—and then copying—this manner of eating, I noticed that I rarely feel deprived (or worse: guilty) for indulging.

So if you’re craving for ice cream and cake, don’t skimp by going low-fat or diet. Get the real thing and don’t torture yourself into thinking that you’re never ever going to have more of it afterwards. Just feel welcome and entitled to the food you love to eat. You’ll be surprised that this tactic actually makes you eat less.

3. Take It From Chin-Chin

I met the actress, Chin-Chin Gutierrez, at a shoot a few years ago. Both vegetarians at the time (I now eat chicken; I think she’s still vegetarian), we got to talking about food and nutrition. She mentioned a particular sequence of eating and a theory that made sense and to this day I still try to follow: She said to start a meal with something raw, like fresh fruit or a crisp salad. Since these are natural products, our bodies recognize them easily and our stomachs produce enzymes that help digest food and whatever comes next in the meal.

That versus the usual way of eating something hot and cooked, and having fruit for dessert. From what I remember, this is how she explained it: “The hot meal has already been processed so it ‘surprises’ your belly. So by the time you introduce fruit for dessert, the enzymes go into overdrive and that’s when you get gas.”

Again, this is just a theory, but I like the idea of prepping your belly to digest food more efficiently (and well, yes, have less gas in the process).

4. A Little Green Tea (Goes A Long Way)

I’ve heard before that Oprah was a staunch believer in the metabolism-boosting benefits of green tea. And I’ve seen people lose weight from taking concentrated green tea supplements. Now, I’m averse to anything in pill form unless it’s Claritin, Tempra, or Vitamin C, so freshly-brewed green tea is fine by me.

I actually started drinking tea not because of Oprah or those people who have lost weight, but rather, I quit going to Starbucks that year I started paying rent. I had to improvise and budget my money strategically, so home- (or office) made green tea it was for me.

Since I also happen to love dessert, I try to make it a point to wash it all down with tea—hot or cold, with little or no sugar especially when I’m already eating something sweet. I go as far as carry my own packets for when I’m being a cheapskate and just order hot water in restaurants.

5. Look Up!

Just like those ballerinas and dancers: It’s all about posture and form. Standing tall gives the illusion of a leaner, longer body. So if you find yourself staring at your belly, that means you’re not holding your head up high and you’re most likely slouching. Remember: It’s also about confidence. And the neatest part about confidence is that you can "fake it ’til you make it."

6. The Abs Diet

Some people have found fitness success in the South Beach Diet, or even Atkins. Personally, these programs have failed for me for the sole reason that they require one to give up sugar (and carbohydrates) for the first two weeks.

Now, I live and breathe sugar. Not a day goes by when I don't have a piece of chocolate or anything sweet. During previous Lenten Seasons, I chose to abstain from dessert or chocolate on Fridays, only to find myself waiting for midnight to have a piece of chocolate. I know it defeats the whole purpose of sacrificing and abstaining from something. But you get the drift.

Anyway, what worked for me that year I gained all that weight (that I still try to follow to this day) was the Abs Diet [Rodale] by US Men's Health editor, David Zinczenko. I went straight for the spin-off book, Eat Right Every Time Guide, because it was so small and undaunting. But boy, was it a treasure trove of easy, practical information that has helped keep the weight off, give or take a few pounds.

What I love about the Abs Diet is that it isn't really a ‘diet,’ but more of a lifestyle program that tells you what you have to eat MORE of, not the other way around, as in the case of other eating plans. The core of the program is the ABS DIET POWER 12, which stands for:

Almonds and other nuts
Beans and legumes
Spinach and other green vegetables

D
airy (fat-free or low-fat milk, yogurt, cheese)
Instant oatmeal (unsweetened, unflavored)
Eggs
Turkey and other lean meats

Peanut butter
Olive oil
Whole grain breads and cereals
Extra-protein (whey) powder
Raspberries and other berries

You only read the book once and you're pretty much set. No need to count calories or remember certain carbohydrates that are allowed or not allowed. Just eat often (Zinczenko recommends six times a day) and sensibly from the list above. Easy, right?

The small book also discusses fastfood options for when you’re on the go, plus easy MICROWAVEABLE breakfasts you can take with you to work or for those hectic days when the last thing you want to think about is your diet. After all, diet culprits are triggered by those hunger pangs when you can't think straight that you just reach for the next sugar bomb or grease grenade to quell the hunger…or mindlessly chow down lunch in front of the computer.

Zinczenko also addresses the issue of belly fat in the book (as the title suggests). “[This] is the most dangerous kind of fat. That’s because belly fat often comprises both subcutaneous fat (fat that’s under your skin) and visceral fat (fat that lies beneath your stomach muscles, snug up against your internal organs). It’s this second type, visceral fat, which can cause some long-term harm,” he explains.

“In one report, researchers concluded that visceral fat is the single-best predictor of diabetes.” Other studies also link that extra fat on your midsection as an indicator for high cholesterol and heart problems down the line. “Shedding fat from your frame is essential to living long and healthy,” says Zinczenko. So beware.

Anyway, if that doesn’t get you picking up the Abs Diet, just know that on it, you get to eat ice cream(!) AND lose weight at the same time! Not kidding.

7. Celebrate The Non-negotiables

Now, back to genetics: there are some things you can’t change unless you’re willing to go through the hassle of plastic surgery. In my case, I’ve always had a belly and paunch, even way back in high school when I only weighed as much Nicole Richie. The puson is just in the family.

It has crossed my mind several times to get liposuction (or mesotherapy injections), even on my cheeks or arms. But then again, I know that after lipo, the fat you do accumulate could show up in really odd places—like the armpits. I don’t think I’m ready to hop on that roller coaster. Plus, over the summer I’ve had some lumps on my breasts surgically removed; it wasn’t the most delightful experience and I promised I’d never ever go through surgery for the sake of vanity: It’s just not worth the pain and stress for me.

Besides, understanding your own unique contours and lovely lady parts makes fashion a more enjoyable undertaking full of promising surprises. Can you imagine what fun it is to find the perfect floral dress that accentuates your curves, or that skirt that emphasizes your behind in the most flattering of ways? If you’re considering cosmetic surgery, I suggest splurging on a new wardrobe instead and a night on the town with your best girlfriends. (And don’t forget the cake!)

Disclaimer: Before trying any new diet, eating plan, or exercise regimen, consult with your physician.

Part of this month's Cosmo Series, 15th of 16 posts also published at Cosmo.ph.

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A Clutter-free Life

2:04 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (8)

When I decided to finally move abroad, I had to tackle eight years’ worth of belongings back at my old apartment. This included trinkets and mementos from high school, stacked notebooks from college, and paper calendars, photos, and cards collected over time. Not included here are shoes, clothes, handbags, and accessories amassed from working all those years as a magazine editor.

It also didn’t help that I was a classic hoarder and easily found sentimental value in anything and everything.

A few months before I’d planned to leave, I was walking out of Mall of Asia from a lunch event and passed through National Bookstore to get to the exit. And then this book called out to me: It’s All Too Much by Peter Walsh [FREE PRESS/Simon & Schuster]. In bright tangerine, its cover wasn’t hard to miss. Immediately I picked it up and impulse-bought into “An Easy Plan for Living a Richer Life with Less Stuff.”

And boy-oh-boy was this book life-changing! (It’s also one of my favorite books to date.) Not only did it help make sense out of letting go of things I’ve collected, it also de-mystified my age-long struggle with hoarding. Walsh, a professional organizer and host of TLC’s Clean Sweep, shares a systematic approach to getting rid of emotional and physical clutter so that one can create a happier, more stress-free home and life.

“Clutter stops us from living in the present,” says Walsh. “The future is important. But you have to consider the quality of your life today and strike a balance between the life you are living today and the multitude of possible paths your life may take in the future.”

This means, say, you find a little black dress you love but doesn’t fit, don’t buy just because you may (or may not) lose weight in the future. Same goes for those jeans you’ve had in first year college that you’re still hoping to fit into “someday.”

“The clutter somehow becomes a life raft for all the ‘just in cases’ we can imagine,” explains Walsh.

Other than the I-might-need-it-one-day excuse, the book lists other excuses we make for keeping things we don’t need around in our homes, work desks, and anywhere there is space. Walsh also walks the reader through each room, sharing tips and strategies for establishing zones, determining function, and dealing with sentimental objects you do want to keep: giving them places of honor in your home and not somewhere gathering dust.

For example, if you’ve inherited heirloom pieces from a loved one, don’t keep them stashed, forgotten in boxes. Instead, start using them already or put them up in display shelves. “You can’t own everything so you have to pick and choose,” says Walsh. “The value you say an item holds for you must be reflected in the place you give that item in your life, otherwise your words have no meaning and the object is little more than clutter.”

As for unused ‘special’ plates and kubyertos sitting pretty in dining room cabinets, here’s what Walsh has to say on the subject (you might want to clue Mom in on this):

“If you have formal china, do you guard it as if it were a national treasure? China can be expensive and beautiful, but what’s the point of owning it if you never use it? This is not to say that you should serve your three-year-old hot dogs on a Royal Copenhagen platter, but please try to use and enjoy it.”

One of the memorable sections in the book is the quiz, “How Clutter Free Are You?” When I first took it more than two years ago, I turned out to be a “Hard-core Hoarder.” Yikes.

While writing this blog post I went through the questions again. And I’m happy to say that I’m now in between “Clutter Victim” and “Clutter Free”—a huge leap from the hoarder that I was years ago.

True, even if I still hold on to precious trinkets, gadgets, and mementos here and there, and haven’t followed Walsh’s advice to the letter, plenty of the things I’d picked up from his book have afforded me a more mobile lifestyle mostly free of useless clutter to lug around.

(And just so all of you know, I’m never ever going to get rid of my seven-year-old iBook in the event that it finally conks out for real in the future. I reckon, it would still make for a lovely, shiny white paper weight.)

Part of this month's Cosmo Series, 11th of 16 posts also published at Cosmo.ph.

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Habit Forming

11:46 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (5)

I started my 30-day Blog Challenge with the premise of creating a habit of blogging more consistently, and being more vigilant with tending to my online life.

As I was pondering the challenge, I also came across a similar program called "31 Days to Build a Better Blog" by Problogger, which is in e-Book form (although I also stumbled upon a website that listed each item on the book). I thought twice about buying because I wasn't ready to part with $19.95 just yet. And I figured, I just want to try writing freely for 30 days, and proceed with the more technical/structured 31 Days afterwards. Anyway, I did buy a different book from Problogger but it hasn't arrived in the mail yet. (I like paper :) )

So now, I'm on day 18, and some days it's just hard to get writing. I do have many ideas banked but I get lazy days when I just don't feel like expounding on them. At the same time though, I have an O.C. streak that makes me want to finish with flying colors.

Anyway, hope you're all having a great holiday weekend!

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A Curious Case

12:42 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

I’ve successfully embarrassed myself way past my teenage years by ’fessing up to an old crush how “heartbroken I felt” when he took up with my cousin (1o years ago) and wondered if he liked me the same way back when we were “hanging out” as friends (five years ago). I’d explained that over the years, I had just gotten more and more curious, and craved some level of closure that should have been addressed a long, long time ago.

Perhaps it’s the journalistic streak that has gotten me in hot water one time too many. But I also thank this unwavering curiosity and desire to just know—even when the answers are obvious—that I now have this beautiful and amazing and unbelievable thing going on with the man I’m with.

'Journalism' case in point: A year ago, when I felt like giving up on our long distance relationship, I dealt with the doubts and what-ifs by thoroughly researching the subject matter, interviewing people who had left town and broken up with their respective partners. I’m not going to divulge the juicy tidbits of their relationship decisions, but I’ll share with you the results. Making a relationship work, far away or not, is a decision you make. And the distance is just something you deal with, like a trait or personality quirk, and it shouldn’t encompass all the great things that made you get together in the first place.

As much as I can’t stand getting all cheesy and relationship-y while blogging, (after all, this is supposed to be my “professional” writing space… although that is contradictory because a blog is some sort of online diary) I know I have so much to be thankful for, and need to acknowledge all the marvelous things in my life and stop whining, stop comparing.

Go back dreaming. And start believing.

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Good morning, America!

10:20 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

Today marks my first year in this "sliver of an island that is the center of everything," in the words of my friend, Oliver—who, turns out, is currently immersed in the pages of Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged.

I still remember the first time I'd picked up The Fountainhead, also by the author. At nineteen, and in the middle of college, I had just moved out from living with relatives and I'd popped by my dad's office to let him know I would be occupying his unused room in the apartment he shared with his sister.

"Buy this book, it has everything you need to know," he said, referring to the thick novel I'd seen around growing up, but never really bothered to pick up because, well, it was... quite hefty. But when I got past the first 100 pages, I knew why my dad had purposefully written its name on a little sheet of paper and sent me to the nearest National Bookstore to make the purchase (with his money, presumably).

True enough, the two books above have helped shape the way I've lived my life for the last 10 years—personally and most importantly, professionally. It's hard to explain in just one entry the philosophy behind these novels. Basically, they herald one's performing in full capacity, getting the job done silently, passionately, and being a good citizen/employee/friend, minus the hooplah and drama.

Ayn Rand is famous for this philosophy of "objectivism." But what makes her work in Fountainhead and Atlas groundbreaking is that she was able to integrate the complicated philosophical musings into intricate, entertaining stories—with richly-drawn characters you either aspire to be or cringe to be. In recent months, I have been amazed at how she was able to put into words certain observations I've made personally from living in the U.S.

So now I am onto rereading these books, and hopefully, be inspired and motivated once more by what they represent. These, along with a steadfast faith in God and a strong belief that life is good, life is abundant, I know I'll be looking forward to more happy anniversaries in the future.

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Busy Business

7:47 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)

Saying "I've been so busy" or "I've been so swamped lately" has already become some sort of cliche whether you live in Manhattan or Manila. But truth is, the phrases do apply to the state of my daily worklife lately—which I am taking as a good sign, right? Unfortunately, when this happens, the blog is the first to suffer a backslide. (Oops, I did it again.)

One of my favorite titas [aunts] used to say, "It's
easy to get lost in the busy-ness." She may have been referring to learning how to prioritize the important things in life, e.g. family, friends, and not just work. Back then (early twenties) I had been so immersed in my career as a young beauty editor at Seventeen, and later on Cosmo and Ok! Magazine.

These days, I would like to think that I have struck a balance between the kind of busy-ness that is healthy (a variety of preoccupations is key: desk job during the day, raket-raket [freelance gigs] at night, and yes I try—friends and family first) and the kind that makes you a slave to your Blackberry (I still don't have one, thank goodness!).

Anyway, in an effort to re-integrate myself into blogging, I am answering one of these very self-indulgent questionnaires that are just so fun regardless of their narcissistic qualities. This particular one is from the March 2008 issue of Elle, with Amy Adams on the cover. (I bought this magazine in February and I only got to read it today.) The original answers are by Narciso Rodriguez, italicized:

Elle Fashion Genius
(page 222)

Other than yourself, who is your favorite designer [writer]?
Cristóbal Balenciaga
The writers of Sex and the City the series.

If you could come back as a dress, which one would it be?
Lady Godiva's
A dress I saw in Harper's BAZAAR, I forget whose...
[This came out in the U.S. edition and adapted by the Russian edition for its cover.]

If you could come back as a model, who would you be?
Violeta Sánchez
Giselle Bundchen. I just wonder how it feels to be that gorgeous...

What's your favorite color?
Blue
Here we go again with this question hahaha.

What are you most vain about?
My weight
Skincare.

What are you most shy about?
Too shy to say.
My paunchy midsection ;)

If you could have somebody else's body, whose would it be?
Evandro Soldati's.

Ornusa Cadness's.

Who are you fantasy dinner party guests?
Louis Armstrong, Coco Chanel, Lee Miller, James Franco, Anaïs Nin, Romy Schneider, Gabriele D'Annunzio, Alain Delon, Abraham Lincoln, Ludwig Mies van der Rohe, George Sand, and Amy Winehouse.

Diane Von Furstenburg, Martha Stewart, Meryll Streep, Hilary Duff, Paris Hilton, Henry Cavill. And then Henry Cavill will stay behind and help me do the dishes, woo hoo!!!

Where is your favorite place to have a drink?
Angel's Share, East Village, NYC.
In Manila, M Cafe. In Manhattan, Casellula.

What's your underwear of choice?
Zimmerli.
Marks & Spencer: the ones they sell a la Fruit of the Loom in packs of five or six—they last forever.

What's the last book you read?
Absurdistan by Gary Shteyngart.

Lipstick Jungle by Candace Bushnell. Now I'm rereading Basic Black by Cathie Black.

Do you have any pets?
Yes, three dogs, named Lucky, John, and Clifford
Basti.

What do you eat for breakfast?

Coffee, protein shake, egg whites.

I have a new mid-year resolution to start eating breakfast at home.

At age seven, you wanted to be:
A monk.

Most probably Betty or Veronica. Most likely Veronica.

What is one thing you find easiest to forgive?
A mistake.
An honest mistake.

What is one thing you find impossible to forgive?
Dishonesty.

Same.

Do you have any supertitions?
Many.

I try not to be superstitious but sometimes I really can't help it.

What's your biggest self-indulgence?
Ice cream.
Cheese.

Favorite place to shop?

Ted Muehling Store on Howard Street, NYC.

I haven't shopped in ages so for now I will say Zara. Today I've discovered Intermix though but I'm still a long way from calling it a fave.

Whose wallet would you like to steal?
No one's.

Ivanka Trump's.

Whose diary would you most like to read?
George W. Bush's.

Angelina Jolie's nannies'.

If you were an inventor, what would you invent?
A time machine.

A contraption that makes one fly (as in like a jet-backpack).

Who is your favorite furniture designer?
Poul Kjaerholm.

Alas, I am still in the Ikea stage.

What's your favorite car?
1967 Porsche 911.
My car in Manila! It's no longer mine now: Chevy Optra.

What was your childhood nickname?
"Cisito," diminutive of "Ciso" (my father), diminutive of "Narciso" (my grandfather).

Maan. Short for Mariel Antonette.

When and where are you happiest?
The holidays at my home in Brazil.

Siesta with Alvs.

Who is your best friend?
Annick.

I don't like the term. I'd been traumatized in high school so I try not to use it.

What is your worst enemy?
Cigarettes.

Sugar. But I adhere to the "Keep your enemies close" credo hehe.

What piece of art would you most like to own?
Gerhard Richter's 439
.
Hmm... not there yet. Same as Ikea stage. I like Jack Vettriano's work though.

Where is your favorite vacation spot?
Bahia, Brazil
.
Mustique is the dream. Palawan is the plan.

Who is your favorite fictional character?
Cartman on South Park.

She's usually fictionalized: Anne Boleyn.

What is your most treasured possession?
A handwritten letter from a late friend.

I can't think of anything at the moment. Maybe my portfolio because it has all the original clips?

Your favorite band/musician/song?
Radiohead.

Song: Fade by Solu Music featuring Kimblee. Band: Phoenix

If you weren't a designer [writer] what yould you be?
An architect.
A pastry chef.

What current trend would you like to see disappear?
Grotesque accessories.

I have to pay more attention to credibly answer this question.

What's your biggest fashion regret?
A mullet.

Wearing a Giordano polo shirt and pants—thinking that's what "semi-formal" and "dressed" meant—at a movie premiere when I was a freshman in college. Everyone else wore black dresses. That is probably one of the reasons why I am always overdressed now hahaha!

Favorite trend of all time?
Jeans.

Dresses and playsuits—they're so easy and fun to wear!

Worst trend of all time?
Logomania.
The only thing I could think of at the moment is back in 2001 or so, magazines kept on showing models wearing pointy-pumps, with colored socks. It just looked wrong, even if I didn't know much about fashion at the time.

Always:
Be cool.

Choose happiness and honesty.

Never:

Not cool.
Lie and backbite.

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An Ode to Bergdorf

2:44 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)


This blog was originally supposed to be called “Bergdorf Blog,” a playful reference to Plum Sykes' Bergdorf Blondes--one of my favorite books. (Vive la chick lit!) I’ve already secured the spot on Blogger, and even purchased the domain name. Unfortunately, for many months, it wasn’t happening. And I also started worrying about copyright infringement for the use of the brand's name. (Although in the original website, there is a disclaimer and a link to Bergdorf Goodman's official website.) Anyway, this is less complicated. And I am hoping: more fun.

So, here we go. Posting NY snippets, tidbits, musings, and escapades, "aNy minute now."

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