A Beauty Lesson

7:08 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (0)

There's more science in the beauty and cosmetics industry than meets the eye.
At the Pond's Institute in Trumbull, Connecticut back in 2006.

I never thought I would become a beauty editor. Not once did it even occur to me that I would be working as one. True, at 18, I told myself I wanted to be an "editor" by age 24. But, at the time, I actually had no idea how to go about it and what kind, actually. (I did manage become an editor at 24, but that's the subject of another blog post.)

So what happened? I started as an intern at Seventeen Magazine back in 2000 when it launched its first international edition. Shortly before graduating, I was hired as an editorial assistant—not an unusual career trajectory for people who intern at magazines. The "beauty" part came in about two years after being hired for the position. I was getting fidgety, watching my contemporaries rise up to fashion, features, and managing editor positions, while I remained a work-all-sections EA, which quite frankly, was actually fun because I got to do everything. But, I probably had that particular career timeline at the back of my mind—or not; I was simply feeling envious of my colleagues. I brought this up to Maya, my first boss (see previous post) who earnestly told me and I will never forget this:

"Mariel, don't compare yourself to others."

I actually forgot exactly what she said after that, but the gist was that I shouldn't indeed be comparing myself with the other EAs who have already "moved forward" because 1) Seventeen was a different magazine, and 2) The position I wanted for myself—lifestyle and fitness assistant/editor—didn't exist in our magazine's masthead at the time.

But more importantly, Maya wanted me to make a decision. To paraphrase, "I don't know where to place you, what do you want to do? You can choose between beauty or features." At the time, Maddy, the fashion and beauty editor was getting ready leave for New York and the position was going to be shared by a fashion editor and a beauty editor who were yet to be hired.

Lille, the features editor (who remains a very very good friend, like most of the Seventeen girls), nudged, "Why don't you do beauty? You just got a car and you can drive to do pull-outs?" It was a simple as that: I could now physically go to the stores and borrow merchandise to write about.

So, that essentially was how I got my start in beauty. And then I walked the walk, talked the talk, worked the work. As the years went by, I no longer had to pull from stores because products simply arrived at my desk, beautifully packaged and brimming with all the science I've come to love to digest.

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On Affirmations

1:55 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)

In the movie, Sunshine Cleaning, actress Amy Adams looks at the bright (and clean) side.

I've come across the concept of saying affirmations over the years, but haven't really consistently enacted the habit in my life. I also noticed how in movies, people who do them are portrayed in a cooky kind of way (e.g. Amy Adams in Sunshine Cleaning) and are in situations that don't necessarily immediately reflect the words they repeat to themselves.

However, every now and then, I write notes to myself and tack them on the wall, but they're usually goal and career-related, hardly ever, "I'm a rockstar, I'm gorgeous!" The most vivid that I do remember and one (or two) that had quite an impact in my work life was one I'd written back in 2002 and put up on the wall near my bed. It listed the following words:

editorial assistant
lifestyle and fitness assistant

beauty and fitness editor


In between the lines were arrows that mimicked a flow chart of sorts. This note reflected the trajectory I wanted my career to go. I had a goal of being an editor at 24—which was two or three years from the time I'd posted the note.

Another one on the wall read (from what I can remember):
"I am a good and talented makeup artist."

This resulted from an early experience as a freelance makeup artist when I'd encountered doubts about my talent; an incident wherein a starlet-then-model completely mocked the bright lime green eyeshadow I put on her. The green was actually the makeup theme given by the director of the fashion show and I was simply following directions, and picking up from a beauty forecast I'd read in Elle that time (that green was going to be the big thing that year/season in eyeshadow).

Anyway, suffice it to say that I've enjoyed a fun, engaging, and exciting beauty career on both counts as an editor and makeup artist. The makeup part has been on the backburner for quite some time now, but recent events and opportunities have again piqued my interest. So let's see how that goes.

The point of this post being, I wanted to share with you an affirmation I'd actually verbalized the other night, part of a string of messages that also included the "I'm fabulous" kind which I shall keep to myself:

"I will not put up with bad behavior."

It's so simple, straightforward, and encompassing. It's applicable to work, friendships, and relationships. And from there stems all the other facets of affirmations such as feeling confident, having clarity and conviction, and so forth.


Image courtesy of Indiewire.com.

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Sayonara, Sara

1:00 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)

DAY 25
of the 30-Day Blog Challenge
Merci beaucoup. Love the colors on this card!

I've had the chance to work with Sara, the creative intern at mark., these last few weeks and I'm posting a special shout-out her way because not only did she just hand me this super cute card (from Papyrus), but she also helped me get acclimatized to my new job. Her bubbly and energetic self was such a welcome treat and I'll truly miss her (it's her last day at work today but she'll most probably be popping by every now and then).

Many of you may not know this, but mark.—Avon's younger trend brand—has "a world class internship program," in the words of mark. president Claudia Poccia. And I'm not saying that because I work here; I know this much is true because I've recently just managed an internship program, and what I've seen in only a few weeks has been amazing so far. And, duh, I started out as an intern myself, so it's safe to say and acknowledge that I have a soft spot for anybody who's new in the biz.

What I'm also discovering and liking about the company right now is how positive the environment is, how people are open to doing things in new ways. And, for someone who has worked in different places and in different stretches of time, it's a refreshing reminder of how working in an office again can be fun and exciting.

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Meet mark.

12:37 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (0)

DAY 16
of the 30-Day Blog Challenge
mark. Snap To It Mega Custom Color Palette

mark. is the younger trend brand of Avon and I'd recently started working for the company as a copywriter. (THAT's actually what I've been so excited about lately!) The products are soo cute and I just keep getting reminded of being (back in) Seventeen again!

So, it was only natural that I opened my own mark. store (click on that cute icon on the upper lefthand side of this page). It's one way for me to get to know the brand even better AND actually have first-hand experience of being a Rep—both hopefully helping me become a better writer for this fun brand. And, as a general rule, I only endorse products that I actually use or have actually tried. As in the case of when I signed up to do a project with Pond's as a director and spokesperson, I tested the Flawless White 7-day clear-skin-claim on the week leading up to my wedding—with favorable results (whew!).

Let me know what you all think of the store, and of the products. Sorry, mark. currently doesn't ship outside the U.S., but I'm sure there's a Balikbayan box being assembled somewhere—a few cosmetics will be a cinch to squeeze in!

Happy shopping!

Visit my new mark. eBoutique!

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Lip, Lip...Hooray!

8:23 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (0)

It's been a while since I've written about beauty here at Ny Minute Now, ever since I'd moved all the beauty articles over at BeautyintheBigApple.com. However, this afternoon, I got to thinking about sharing my two latest lip finds.

On my way to the ladies' room at the office earlier, my friend, Pia Rojas, fashion and beauty editor of Good Housekeeping, casually said, "Go to my desk, I have lipstick for you."

Now, while I've more discerning than ever with what I put on my face and body these days, I rarely turn down beauty products. I no longer get to test-drive a kazillion items for work, so I actually now have to head to the counters and supermarkets, or rely on the generous donations of my editor friends for personal care items, as you can tell from above.

Anyway, that said, you must check out Revlon Colorburst™ Lipsticks in Soft Nude and Grape. The former is a delicious neutral shade that seems blah at first swipe, but instantly transforms into a healthy pillowy pink, once topped with your favorite old-rose gloss. The latter, meanwhile, looks like a rich plum inside the tube, and based on the nude I've tried, goes on soft and creamy on the lip. And that's saying a lot, coming from someone not exactly a fan of rouge, who consciously takes it off before eating!


Pictured above are Revlon ColorBurst Lipsticks in True Red, Fuchsia and Baby Pink. Image courtesy of Harper's Bazaar.

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It's a Date!

7:26 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (9)

This has got to be the best and cutest datebook I've seen in a long time. And I'm not just saying that because I'm currently doing an advertising project with Cosmo, or because I'm apparently a "brand ambassador" for Pond's (quite fun, let me tell you!). I say this as a general and avid fan of paper, good stationery, and well thought-out pieces of merchandise. I absolutely love how the people behind this planner seemed to have poured their hearts into it: from the witty, well-written copy peppered throughout the meticulously art-directed calendar pages, to the eye-popping illustrations and useful coupons and stickers at the end of the book. I could go on and on gushing, but it's best to see for yourself; this planner retails for Php 250 at newstands, bookstores, and supermarkets nationwide. But don't take my word for it because it's already April and they're probably sold out.

On the bright side, I'm giving away not one, not two, but FIVE of these lovely works of magazine editorial art. All you have to do is of course, mention and link NyMinuteNow.com in a blog post, and while you're at it, plug the upcoming makeover promo posted at Cosmo.ph. Go to http://www.cosmo.ph/cosmo-community/promos/be-part-of-cosmo-makeovers-2010/ to find out how you can be one of SEVEN lucky readers who'll win a free fashion and beauty makeover.

Leave a comment with your blog link and I shall draw lots from the first 10 blog posts. Thanks in advance for your entries and enjoy the week ahead!

UPDATE 05/08/10 I changed my mind about the mechanics. I'll just give the five planners to the first five people who link up and leave a comment. So far, I have two entries. (Thanks, Ann and NeuroChiq!)

Sample calendar pages with useful tips on the side.


Fun and colorful illustrations worth keeping 'til after year-end.



Art direction by Red De Leon. Illustrations by Leo Alvarado.

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Out!

4:11 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (0)

Today's 'closet call' brought to you by me and my big mouth!
(By the way, this probably is TV's most famous New York closet!)


I think I may have accidentally outed a person I'd just met earlier at lunch. Talk about embarrassing, and I am so sorry!

In the "fashion world" where I'd like to think I come from (but not really; I'm mostly just on the sidelines), it's quite normal to talk about who's out, who's in the closet, with someone who probably has just come out himself, something strange like that, although that has never happened to me. I did out a friend who happened to not be gay, and he anyway kind of agreed to email me in the event he did come out in the near or distant future—which really goes to show that these kinds of conversations exist in my world.

These day-to-day stories among friends are interspersed with fashion trends, beauty news, or celebrity tidbits. And anything and everything about beauty and lifestyle are shared over sumptuous lunches capped by cups of tea and slices of cake. At least that's how I remember my old life, way before I moved to New York. These days, I'm more likely to be checking what Martha Stewart or Ina Garten have to say about a kitchen project I'm trying out, which probably goes to show why my social and mingling skills are kind of rusty (or amiss) at this point.

Image courtesy of Stylecaster.com.

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Talking about suppliers

6:56 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (17)

Designer Kate Torralba's trademark handbags with her custom dresses.

Now, I was no bridezilla and friends could attest to that. In fact, I was kind of spacey and floaty about the whole thing. When asked for certain preferences when it came to bridal fashion, flowers, or fabrics, I left a big part of the decision-making process to whomever was the expert. I had my basic 'requirements' ("I slouch so I would like for the straps to cross at the back so they don't fall off, and I also have a paunch.") and palette ("The colors of the Diane Von Furstenberg romper I bought with my first copy editor paycheck."), and practically gave the suppliers free reign to do whatever they did best.

And it was so worth it; I was blown away by the result. You definitely get what you pay for and if you trust people to do their thing, you could really end up with something unbelievably good, beautiful, and lovely. If you're planning your own wedding, this is a good time to pause and ponder priorities. What aspects of the big day are important to you and your partner? For Alvs and myself, we skipped the videographer altogether (I don't really like all those hot, bright lights blocking the ceremony in sight) and alloted our budget on photography, hiring the best wedding photographer we know, Pat Dy.

Good photography: can't be beat.

So again, the best way to talk about my wedding suppliers is through photos and anecdotes. Starting with...

THE DESIGNER

None other than Kate Torralba, who I met way back in Seventeen. Those early days were just fun and promising, and it was nice getting to know certain people during that time. While many people would assume that having been a beauty editor meant instant access to a busload of designers, that is actually only the case if you're a fashion editor. There is a difference. The beauty side of the magazine may be glamorous yet oftentimes, it's more nerdy and science-related than most people think. We get to know clothes by necessity, when we have to pull items from shops and use them for shoots. Occasionally, we contact designers for custom pieces, but this is rare in the world of beauty editorials which feature closeup pictures of models' faces.

Anyway, the point of all the above is, I only know and have worked with a few fashion designers. Less than five, actually. All except three of the custom pieces I own are made by Kate. So it was very easy to decide to go with her for my wedding gown.

Absolutely LOVE my dress!

FLOWERS

Our wedding coordinator, Bong Abela, also happened to be an event stylist and florist. And again, I'm not particular about flowers and I just wanted them to basically follow the color scheme and essentially not be ugly. Plus, we were on a budget. Fortunately, the fabrics from the motif were already very busy and flowery, that we got away with using plenty of foilage and greens. Honestly, I don't even remember what the flower arrangement looked like at the church. And by reception, it was already dark so I didn't even notice. Again, priorities.


HAIR & MAKEUP

The first makeup artist I ever met when I started working almost 10 years ago in Seventeen was Peddy Acebo. At the time, I knew NOTHING about makeup and he basically let me go through his makeup box, showing me a bottle of BeneTint in the process. Over the years, we would go on out-of-town shoots and the staff simply loved booking Peddy because of his great work ethic, and of course, talent for beautifying. I loved how, on the day of the wedding, he exclaimed, "You're the only bride who asked for blue [eyeshadow]!"

Peddy also brought along hairstylist Bong Vicentico, who did a fab job with my purposely-tousled updo. You won't have to worry about hair styling products if you get a supplier who is experienced in the field of magazine editorials and advertising; or even just someone who has done numerous bridal parties to know what works for each hair type, who could also recommend a good shampoo and conditioner for you.


Flawless, thanks to Peddy and Bong!

CHURCH & VENUE

As some of you may already know, we decided three months before the wedding to move it out of town, to the lovely city of Cebu, and have a beach reception. My husband is great with logistics and details, and I believe I'm good with big-picture stuff, so it worked out. Of course we had our share of fighting and arguing (mostly him complaining about how I was so up in the air about the big event), but we did good. And I also got plenty of help with the travel planning and family coordination thanks to my cousin, Jacque, who's more like a sister.

Be Resorts (formerly Microtel Inn & Suites) in Mactan Island, Cebu.


The beautiful Cebu Metropolitan Cathedral


INVITATIONS

I'm still good friends with my only ex-boyfriend, Ruben Flores, (his family owns The Chocolate Kiss Cafe—a good reason to never burn bridges!) whose new girlfriend Trina Valenzuela, makes the best wedding invites, in my very biased opinion. No, seriously, her work is absolutely beautiful, thorough, and unique. From the custom artwork to the paper quality, down to the handling and delivery, everything is just so exquisitely made (she delivers the invites in this neat white box tied with a chocolate brown bow, tagged with the logo). To see is to believe. Drop by http://vprojekt.multiply.com to see more of her excellent work.

If you like good-quality paper and stationery, Trina Valenzuela of
village pro'jekt designs and concepts
is your girl.

Okay, I'm sure I'm forgetting other suppliers, but this is enough wedding talk for now. If you would like contact details of all those mentioned above, just leave a comment and I'll answer your questions :)

DVF Romper photo courtesy of Thisnext.com. All other photographs except for the Cebu Metropolitan Cathedral (which I took) are by Pat Dy and team.

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Young and Old

8:58 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (18)

Two photos taken 20 years and 30 lbs. apart :)
(Nope, I'm not blaming the cake for that.)

If you're a regular reader of this blog, you may have noticed that I rarely place photos of myself or my family members (especially family members, and the kids). I am guessing this is partly because of having been spoiled during my magazine years with art directors who airbrushed, tweaked, and polished every stray blemish, excess flab, or wayward strand that whatever photo of myself came out in print was guaranteed to be flawless as realistically as possible. (And yes—consequently, I've had to deal with "Oh, you look fatter in person than in your picture in the magazine" side comments in the past.)

These days, I have to do my own airbrushing with the modest skills I've learned using Gimp.

Another reason for not uploading too many self-portraits is that I may have developed a defense mechanism of sorts of wanting to be read, understood, and scrutinized for my personality and the output of my brain—a.k.a. the "real me"—versus the color of my hair and skin.... I only have New York job interviews to blame for this budding insecurity.

Still, I couldn't help but share these two photos taken 20 years and about 30 lbs. in between. I find them somewhat similar, because of the pose, and interesting because my younger self can look like my daughter, if I had one.

These days I can empathize better with women who yearn for the poreless skin of their youth, that once smooth exterior/posterior, and that overall physical creaselessness of ages past.

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Finding Your Passion

7:22 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (10)

I once read before that what you were when you were 7 is what you’re likely to turn out to be when you’re a grownup.

Looking back, the things I did during playtime and countless afternoons were activities I eventually made careers out of.

If you’re hitting some on-the-job roadblocks and feel like it’s time to branch out, perhaps all you have to do is look back on those summers you spent as a child. What appealed to you the most? What made you look forward to those days without school? Or what subject in school was your ultimate favorite throughout your academic life? You’ll be surprised to put two and two together and come up with a promising and potentially perfect career mix.

Here’s my own trip down memory lane, plus some realizations along the way.

Makeup and Playing Dress-up

When I was little, maybe around 3, my mom gave me a small green shoebox filled with old lipsticks and other makeup she no longer used. Around that time, I’d also successfully bitten my aunt’s strawberry Chapstick and discovered that how it smelled and lingered on one’s lips wasn’t necessarily how it tasted once you’ve chewed a chunk of it.

Eventually, at 7 or 8, when my parents were out working, I spent afternoons rummaging through my mom’s closet trying out her Splash Cucumber astringent and Mary Quant mascara. I also wore her high heels and oftentimes wrapped a blanket around me pretending to be a Miss Universe contestant. (My cousin and I loved doing this. That year, Miss Thailand won, and we both wanted to be her. So in our version of the pageant, the commentator would say, “And the winners are, Miss Thailand 1 and Miss Thailand 2!”)

Working in magazines was not unlike all of that. I got to wear a lot of makeup—and also put it on other people—and play dress-up, and got paid for it(!).Who would’ve thought?

Cooking and Baking

In the 80s, my aunt had a flourishing baking business wherein she made beautiful birthday cakes and formed them into famous cartoon characters like the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and all those cool caricatures from that time. She was also known for her araro [cornstarch cookies] and Sans Rival, and at some point, she sold egg pan de sal from her home bakery.

I used to spend plenty of summers and weekends in her shop. In retrospect, I’m surprised at how generous she was that she just let me tinker about. I had free reign on the sheet pans, candy thermometer, and powdered sugar, and I even made my own frosting using Anchor Butter, like there was an unending supply of it. I also learned early on the difference between butter and shortening, a.k.a., vegetable lard (the latter is gross).

Fast-forward 20+ years and I’m wielding my own electric mixer, sifting flour, and making my own sweet treats in the kitchen—going through sticks and sticks of good butter. It’s a delightfully decadent example of history repeating itself.


Reading and Writing

Growing up, I was only allowed to watch TV on Thursdays—that was when Okey Ka Fairy Ko aired—and on weekends. So I spent many quiet nights reading and going through children’s encyclopedias and fairy tale books to my heart’s content (my dad also owned bookstores back then).

With all that reading came writing. My earliest memory of being ‘published’ was in second grade, when I wrote a poem(?) for Mother’s Day that came out in the school paper. I still vividly remember because that was the only time I didn’t spend my 10-peso allowance for a day (or two) so I could buy my mom this red-orange lipstick from the store beside my school.

As the years went by, writing and reading have been mainstays in my chosen career path. When I got a copy editing job at a famous fashion retailer in New York, I was stoked: What could be better than reading all day while getting to look at beautiful clothes in the process? When I had that job, I also did my writing projects at night. To me that was the perfect work balance doing both the things I loved to do.

These days, I still try to maintain that equilibrium of doing the things I enjoy and, even if it’s sometimes literally just pennies, earn an income in the process. Like my dad said (and that I always repeat), “Do something you love to do and the money will follow.”


Drawing and the Arts

Now, I’ve never really fancied myself a drawer. I’ve carried what I call ‘drawing guilt’ ever since that summer when I was about 8 and my mother got me a portrait sketching book. I got impatient following the steps, so I traced the faces. When my parents got home that day, my mother kept on raving about how talented I was and how marvelous my drawings were. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I cheated.

So all my life, I simply assumed that ‘art’ wasn’t really my thing or calling. After all, I’d worked with so many amazingly talented artists and art directors and there was no way my stick drawings could have been up to par with what they produced.

When I got into makeup artistry, I did wonder why I was able to shade people’s faces, but was still ultimately clueless when it came to sketching and drawing. I figured, I probably just had to take up an art class to learn technical skills.

It wasn’t until years after that I would find out from a ‘real’ artist that tracing was actually a start, and that it was perfectly okay! So instead of feeling guilty about tracing those portraits, I could’ve persisted and become really good at drawing. Oh well.

My mother recently cleared her storage room and unearthed some ‘paintings’ (I really am uncomfortable with the whole artsy-fartsy thing in relation to myself) I did when my little brother was younger and had this kid easel set up in the living room. When I saw them, I was surprised: They actually looked better than what I remembered. So maybe I could pick up ‘drawing’ and ‘painting’ as sensible hobbies after all, without being embarrassed or feeling pretentious, and maybe someday, no longer underestimate my art skills.

I’m not saying I’m going to ditch everything and live in the woods to take up painting full-time, or anything extreme like that. What I do want to do is get to know other tools—I am now absolutely curious about Adobe Illustrator—that could further hone any skill I may (or may not) have. If I now draw like a 5-year-old, maybe 10 years from now I’ll start drawing like a 20-year-old, and so forth.

My ‘art’ skills may never catch up to my real age, but I’m only happy to explore.

Part of this month's Cosmo Series, 16th of 16 posts also published at Cosmo.ph.

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Working Happy: To Each Her Own

11:36 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (3)

What's your work forecast?

My college (and early work life) ex who remains a good friend once used to find it funny and amusing that I wanted to be a journalist...but only for happy news. We used to joke that, in the event I became a broadcaster, my segment would start like this:

"And now, for the good news..."

Little did I know then that I would eventually work as a beauty editor—a job which was as close as I could get to being a bearer of sparkly-happy updates. What better way can one be positively entertained and willingly distracted than by perusing beautiful baubles of perfume bottles or marvelous palettes of face paint?

While working in a magazine was stressful especially during tight, back-to-back deadlines—and when it comes to the nitty-gritty, an editor’s life isn’t as 100% glamorous as it seems (fashion editors are expert plantsadoras behind the scenes)—it was a unique career path. For many years, I had a hard time explaining what exactly I did because it was a bit challenging to discuss the minute details of what goes on behind the pages, and not to mention incredibly boring once you get past the sparkle (we got used to disappointed interns).

But overall, I did get what I wanted: I had a HAPPY job. I reckoned, my way of being charitable, helping people, and contributing to the common good was by providing readers with a beautiful, glossy escape. I did tackle (and still do) some not so peppy subjects in my beauty pages and articles like "Breakup Makeup" or "How to Look Pretty After You've Cried Your Eyes Out."

On a drive back from out of town with my cousin-in-law, a neurosurgeon, he and I talked about our work. My memory of the whole conversation is hazy, but I most probably regaled him with stories about how I lugged shampoo bottles to and from shoots, interviewed dermatologists, decoded complicated ‘breakthrough’ ingredients of new skincare products, etc.

But what I do remember is this: at some point, he said, "I understand now that what you do isn't necessarily 'less' than what a doctor or engineer does. Same goes for janitors and other blue collar employees. Each one has to do their job, because all these jobs contribute to the whole of society.”

Not verbatim, but in essence: “When one does a good job, it propels everyone forward.”


Part of this month's Cosmo Series, 12th of 16 posts also published at Cosmo.ph.
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Forward March

10:19 AM / Posted by Mariel / comments (9)

"Fashion's not about looking back it's always about looking forward."
—Anna Wintour


I recently watched The September Issue starring the staff of American Vogue. I'm more of a Cosmo girl in terms of dressing fashionably on a relatable, practical scale. But I liked watching Anna Wintour and her team, (particularly Creative Director Grace Coddington) and I liked how the former described the forward-thinking characteristic of fashion.

Sometimes it's too easy to dwell on the past—be it a fashion faux pas, a beauty boo-boo, or even a particular person you've regretted dating. Yet living a charmed and meaningful life involves the ability to pick up the pieces, remember the lessons from every experience, and hopefully move forward armed with an enlightened mind and heart.

Here are three things to take away from the quote above and tips on moving past life's curve balls.

1. When something keeps happening to you, there's something about the situation that you still have to learn.

I realized this from what one of my aunties said back in 2003: the year I notoriously dated guys who kept breaking my heart. During one of my sob sessions (the guy I was dating practically ditched me via text; so much like Carrie and Berger's Post-it breakup) she told me, "Never ever let a guy make you feel that way. Ever!" While looking out the window, a la Sharon Cuneta, complete with raindrops, I realized an important lesson: Guys who were insecure and caused so much stress were NOT worth it. (Eventually I found a steady, laidback, no-hang-ups guy whom I'm marrying next year.)

2. Don't take yourself too seriously.

So what if you wore a baduy outfit? Or showed up with concealer two shades lighter? People around are more than likely to be absorbed in their own mishaps to notice (or remember long enough) yours. I've had my share of many style-sablay moments but have learned to belly up and fake confidence when needed most.

A few years ago I was invited to a beauty event which turned out to be part of the grand opening of Mall of Asia. Cosmetic company executives arrived in business suits, while brand managers and designers wore flowy, flirty dresses. It was a Saturday, so guess what I had on? A white tank and khaki shorts! Thank goodness I had some makeup on, a cute headband, and wore comfy heeled leather sandals. Whew! If I were back in college I would have been mortified (see "Short Shorts" post here). But I reckoned people thought I dressed that way on purpose; which was also true because I'd heard how massive MOA was, so I put on something comfortable I could walk in for hours.

At the end of the day, it all works out. And if it doesn't, tomorrow's another day. So put on a smile—and move along.

3. There's a reason for every setback.

This quote merits a whole blog post altogether because I've witnessed its truth on many, many occasions. But I'll save the details for later. As much as it's ideal to live a "forward-themed" life, sometimes, things don't go as planned or certain disappointments and setbacks emerge. Don't fret. If you look back, notice that when you expected something but didn't get it, you actually ended up with something better. Now that I've started talking about this, I'll dish some examples on my next blog post! So watch this space, Cosmo girls!

Part of this month's Cosmo Series, third of 16 posts also published at Cosmo.ph.

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Calling Doctor Beauty

7:51 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (0)

Seventeen girls circa 2002: Monica, Tata, Maya, Mariel, and Anne.

When my former boss (and first magazine editor) at Seventeen, Maya, uploaded this photo on Facebook, I couldn't get over how FRESH I looked in it. I admit I got a little bit affected and fixated on then and now: as in comparing a recent pic to this. Futile, I know, but necessary. (It could also be the lighting; after all, I believe this was taken on a stage with spotlights. Hah!)

I'm not exactly one to be bothered by the aging process. Or maybe I should take that back because I've worked in beauty for quite some time now so I probably don't realize that I have a slightly heightened awareness of skincare and makeup, and it's something that's just there so I tend to take it for granted.

Anyway, this picture is a beautiful and painful reminder that I should follow my own advice and commit to a new skincare regimen. I'm most inclined to hit the Clarins counters only because I've seen this brand work, on myself and on peers who have used it in times of dire skin.

Now, never say never but if there's one thing I haven't tried during all these years writing about skincare, hair, makeup, cosmetics… it's plastic surgery, or anything that involves needles. At Seventeen, I didn't have to worry about covering this 'beat' because my job didn't call for it. But eventually at Cosmo, we were offered to try everything from mesotherapy injections, Thermage facials, breast augmentation, liposuction, and so forth.

Fortunately, I didn't have to do any of these because there were always other people who were willing to test-drive these cosmetic 'innovations.' I was left to deal with orange hair, robotic perming machines, body wraps involving seaweed and mud, and all else in between. Not a bad compromise.

Plastic surgery is something that requires a delicate sense of proportion and an impeccably refined—and most importantly, balanced—aesthetic that not very many who are in the profession are able to show for in their work. If you're considering going under the knife, it's crucial to shop around, do extensive research, and look for people who have achieved great results (you'll have to look hard because if a surgeon's good, chances are you can't even tell someone's had something done).

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Weekend Beauty Buys

12:28 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)

 
Ready, set, shop!

At my former job as beauty editor, I got to try out new products at quite a fast-paced rate. I had a bottomless supply of lipstick, mascara, skincare products...you name it, I had it in my drawer, or in one of the huge plastic bins under my desk (which also spilled to the side of my cubicle). It was a constant challenge to keep everything organized and accounted for.

These days, it's not so hectic in my personal beauty department. I write a weekly lifestyle column for a newspaper I love (and the only one I had ever wanted to work for since college; an esteemed professor had the utmost respect for this publication and it just rubbed off on his students). The pace by which I work now is gentler and more languid, and the best part is getting to work in pajamas and squeeze in naps when I hit writing roadblocks and need a breather.

The downside to this is that my body clock is really skewed.

Anyway, I just found out about BeautySak.com and browsed its contents. Not sure how these products hold out, but they're quite fun to look at:


1. Molton Brown Blu Maquis Fine Liquid Hand Wash, $25
I recently visited my friend Niña's apartment and her bathroom was filled with colorful bottles that perfectly accented (and decorated) the all-white interior. A handful of them were Molton Brown shower gels.
2. Kai Nighlight Candle, $22
I've never really heard of Kai Body but it looks interesting. The line has parfum sprays, body butters, but I'm particularly drawn to their votive candles. Back at my old apartment, I lit candles whenever I was stressed out, or just after a long day, to unwind and relax. My particular favorites are citronella, lavender, and thyme (also as burner oils).


3. Liquid Keratin De-Frizz Shampoo, $27
Honestly, whenever I hear the word 'keratin,' Palmolive Optima comes to mind. Remember those commercials in the 90's? And I think my hair was at its smoothest and silkiest, when I was 13—using Palmolive Optima! Anyway, I wonder if this anti-frizz shampoo will give the same silky results.
4. Keratin Complex by Coppola - Thermo-Shine, $18
Since I rarely go to events these days, I no longer do the whole shampoo, conditioner, blow-dry shebang, unless I'm off to a meeting or just feel like it. But what I do notice is that whenever I work in shine serum after towel-drying, my hair looks better as opposed to just leaving it as is to air-dry. I'm still finishing my TIGI Girl Toys shine serum, and when I do, I'll most likely scope the scene for a new one.

Happy weekend internet-shopping everyone!
 

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Eau, baby

12:14 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (3)

Over at BeautyintheBigApple, I'd written quite a number of times about fragrances. This past year I've featured a number of designer must-haves, but personally, I'm in perfume limbo. While vacationing in Manila last summer, I bought a trusty bottle of Denenes cologne: one I'd frequently spashed on as a preppy tweener. These days, it's my go-to spritz when it gets too hot outside, or if I'm one day short of a bath (oops!).

When I was a full-time beauty editor, I leisurely switched fragrances on a regular basis: one for every season and one for any mood. And if I come across any of the perfumes I've used in the past, I would most definitely associate them with certain points in time, people, and experiences. In a random conversation, I would be able to explain to you my love-hate relationship with Bulgari Omnia Original (hate) and Amethyst (love). By the way if you're on the lookout for new scent treats, these cologne buying guides for women and men at Shopwiki UK might be helpful in your search. As for me, it's Denenes for now until further notice.

Image courtesy of http://www.deliciasdeespana.com

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Mandy's back!

8:29 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (10)

That's Mandy Moore on the cover of the July/August 2009 issue of Women's Health Magazine. She looks great, doesn't she? As it turns out, she has a new album called Amanda Leigh (her birth name) and surprise, surprise, she's now married to singer-songwriter Ryan Adams.

I met Mandy Moore a couple of years back and she was the sweetest thing. My fiancé has always had a crush on her, going as far as asking my then-editor to let him tag along during the interview. I am trying to unearth a photo which I thought was in my dormant Friendster account, but apparently, was in the Myspace account I'd deleted a long time ago.

Sorry if this blog post sounds anorexic yet again. I just spent the whole day doing my New York day job—that I get to do outside the city thank you very much—so I'm pretty spent. Plus, up until a minute ago, I had yet to figure out what to write about for Friday's beauty column. Good thing I got an email from the brand manager of Ralph Lauren/Polo and Diesel detailing upcoming men's fragrance launches. So, watch out, I'll be broadcasting the latest scent treats you can get for the hommes in your life!

Back to Mandy, yes she was sweet, charming, gracious, and gorgeous! It was the 'Mandy Machine' of agents, managers, and the like, that annoyed in general. That said, I only have pleasant things to say about the former teen pop star, and I wish her well in her career and marriage. And I'll be browsing iTunes for her new songs, simply because they reek 'indie' and I'm curious: Mandy holed up in a cabin to produce her latest album. This means, she was free to write and record with no big studio labels filtering and forcing mass-produced, monotonous beats on her. (I do like some manufactured pop, too, don't get me wrong.)

Anyway, Women's Health is an engaging read brimming with useful and entertaining articles. Although personally, I seem to enjoy reading Men's Health more, maybe because with the latter being a magazine made for men, I am not compelled to check the gutter for photo credits, or pay too much attention to styling, copy, etc.—an 'autopilot' function that lights up whenever I pick up any women's magazine.

Women's Health is currently being headed and edited (headited—a term I've coined) by Michele Promaulayko, Kate White's former second-in-command at Cosmo. I think anybody who has been second-in-command of anything makes a great head of something, as witnessed by my managing and associate editor friends who now helm their own titles.

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Magalove

9:13 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (7)

A page usually starts as a scribble, an idea in an editor's head.

It's safe to say that magazines are my first love. Growing up, my dad owned a small bookstore (and by the end of the eighties, opened a few more) in our hometown. It was common back then to allocate a shelf or two for adult magazines—the Playboys and Penthouses of the decade. And whenever it was time for my parents to wrap each risqué read into their individual glossy plastic packaging, I was relegated to one corner of the store where I quietly read my Archies, Reader's Digests, and you guessed it: magazines. (No—no Playboy for me.)

So in retrospect, I'm not surprised that I ended up working in the magazine industry for quite a number of years. I still do, somehow. But these days, it's a more languid, less intense version of my life as a full-time editor. As a freelancer, I can practically spend the day working in bed. I do miss the stilettos, though.

This drawing is a sample of how I would brainstorm with my art director in the past and it's a page peg of a project I recently worked on. A page usually starts with an idea, scribbled on a piece of paper, and from there, blossoms into a full-fledged editorial—styled products, lead-in photos, captions and all. As you can see, I'm not the very best drawer around, but so far, my doodling ways have produced about seven years worth of magazine clips.

A couple of weeks ago, I was asked if I still wanted to pursue a magazine career in New York. The answer is yes and no. Yes, because I would never turn down the prospect of working for one of my favorite things in the world. There is nothing like opening a new, freshly-printed issue; the feel of glossy paper sticking to your fingers. But then, no, because I also feel like the platform has changed. That's why more and more, I'm actively pursuing and nurturing all my online endeavors. Yet again, when the magazine bug bites, one must scratch.

If you work with a very talented art director, he or she will get what you drew and come up with an unbelievably concise mock-up of the page.
(layout by Khennette Dy)

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Travelbug Travel Bag

1:06 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (4)

I bought this last night at Target for a steal. I first came across this Swiss Gear 17" rolling carry-on bag in Las Vegas last October; it was just soo cute and compact. At the time, I didn't really need it. My fiancé and I just ended up getting him the bigger version in black. I have my own trusty red rolling suitcase that's been with me EVERYWHERE. I won't go into detail but that bag, along with a giant wheeled duffel, were the perfect travel companions.

Last week, I saw the luggage again and noticed it was on sale. Again, I hesitated, despite my mother's urging to get it. Anyway, I saw her packing last night for an upcoming family trip to Wasington D.C. and thought about the Swiss Gear carry-on once more. She said, "Let's go to Target now and buy it." It was 9 p.m.

Within 30 minutes I was the proud owner of this supercute pewter bag. The picture doesn't do it justice. Oh, I'm not retiring my precious red maleta, I'll just be converting it into my mobile beauty trolley for future makeup gigs.

Image courtesy of Target.com.

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Big Move

9:29 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)


I'm in the middle of moving my archived Inquirer articles to a new home: BeautyintheBigApple.com. If you don't buy the paper or regularly scan the Lifestyle section over at Inquirer.net, the new site is a good place to check back and read the beauty pieces I write almost every week. For a sneak preview, just click on the photo and you'll see what I've been up to (aside from my 30-day Blog Challenge).

As you can tell, I'm also making some changes around here at NyMinuteNow.com. I have yet to find a new, more widget-friendly template to match the sentiment and content. I find that I spend time customizing gadgets and fiddling with codes and photos so they fit better in the sidebar: time that can be spent writing blog posts and optimizing my life—in and out of the web.

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Cybershot

11:54 PM / Posted by Mariel / comments (2)


Lately I started taking pictures again for my beauty column...

Not bad for a four-year-old, point-and-shoot.

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